It’s my birthday eve which means it’s time for my most popular post (seriously!). I always love taking the time to reflect on what I’ve learned and experienced in an age, and this one sure has been pretty special.
When I remember 18, I know I will remember ice cream runs with Gabriel and my baby cousins, where Cohen would refuse to get ice cream and ask for a soda instead (weird). I will remember my worldwide iced coffee/gelato/chocolate croissant tour that I took v. seriously. I’ll remember staying up way too late talking to Gabriel and our chocolate chip cookie baking DISASTER (my grandparents are still finding cookie dough all over their kitchen). I’ll remember snorkeling off the reef in Fiji and eating gyros in Mykonos and running away from Goannas at my Mom’s childhood vacation spot. I’ll remember the unmissable Saturday morning açai bowls with my family and the times we would skip the gym to go get chicken schnitzel wraps.
18 has been beyond anything I could’ve ever imagined. Here are a few things I’ve learned.
- You have the power to decide what will affect you. There are so many elements of life that you cannot control– what other people do, how they treat you, or even how their actions initially make you feel– what you can control, however, is your response to these things. You have the power to choose how you will respond. You can either dwell on it, letting someone else’s judgments linger in your consciousness, or you can make the choice to not let it affect you. The more you tell yourself, “these words have no power over me”, the sooner you’ll believe it.
- Don’t be cavalier with your words. Let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no (James 5:12).
- He keeps His promises. Every single one. And He goes above and beyond. Every time.
- You’re allowed to stand up for yourself. You can be kind and still have a backbone.
- There are seasons for fasting and seasons for feasting. Either way, He is still God, and He is still good.
- Passive aggressiveness accomplishes nothing. Either confront the issue or let it go.
- You will feel prettiest and most confident in clothes you feel comfortable in.
- Just because everyone else is doing something, doesn’t mean you should.
- Listen to others. Don’t let your assumptions or personal bias get in the way of actually hearing what someone else is saying.
- The truth always comes out, so just be honest.
- Growth comes only from discomfort.
- Your true friends are the ones you can go months without talking to, and then pick up exactly where you left off. Those ones are the ‘forever friends’.
- The enemy comes directly against that which God says. This is evident all throughout the Bible, from creation through to Jesus and beyond, so it’s no surprise that we experience the same thing. Do what you have to do so you can recognize which voice is true.
- No one really cares about how many likes you get. Most people are too busy worrying about their own accounts to take any notice.
- Your Mom really does know best– listen to her!
- It’s cool to be nice. No one is going to enjoy a conversation with someone who is mean.
- Never let your ego get in the way of meeting new people. You have something to learn from everyone.
- You’re allowed to change the plan! Society kind of has this timeline of you go to school, then you go to college, then you get a job, blah blah blah. You’re allowed to do it differently; you’re allowed to take time off or pursue a passion project or do it the exact same way you’ve always said you would. Your only limitations are the ones you put on yourself.
All my love.